The other day, Ava’s teacher told me that Ava had had two meltdowns (crying for 30 minutes without calming down) in the past two days. We haven’t seen any meltdowns at home for quite awhile, and I asked Ava what was going on. Her teacher thought it might be related to us moving, so I started with that.
Me: Ava, how are feeling about moving?
Ava: (blank look)
Me: Are you feeling happy, excited, confused, sad?
Ava: Confused.
Me: About what, Honey?
Ava: My toys.
Me: huh?
Ava: my baby toys packed in a box that we just found.
Me: Are you missing your baby toys? I packed them in a box a long time ago so you could have room for your big girl toys.
Ava: Well, I just want my baby toys.
Then she proceeded to tell me that she was worried she wouldn’t be going to the same preschool next year. I assured her that she has one more year at the same school, but we do have to take a break for the summer. I also asked her if she wanted to get some new toys for the new house and she said no- she just wants her baby toys at the new house. I’m trying not to read too much into this. Ava and her teacher have also told me that there are some issues with friends at school. The typical “she won’t play with me” issues. I was dreading the day those would start. Thank goodness for Angelina Ballerina who goes through some similar issues.
We drove by our construction site today where they’re building the new house. There were stakes in the ground and it looks like they’re ready to start building. I can’t wait to take pictures of the progress. Speaking of pictures. . . Nathan, the best husband ever, bought me a new small camera for Mother’s Day since I broke my other one. We can all look forward to new (and even better) pictures soon!!
May 11, 2009 at 4:39 pm |
Oh my gosh … poor sweetie! I cannot believe how soon the Mean Girl thing started for Clara. She is pretty tough, but she will tell me about kids saying “you can’t play with us” and I’ve witnessed it once (do I get a medal for NOT throttling the little “witch”-in-training? yeah, there are lots of grown up witches driving in traffic don’t you know?) And even if she isn’t consciously upset, just the “energy” around packing/moving/change maybe making her a little unsettled. I know you will help her weather this …
can you help me?
hugs to you all and looking forward to more pictures
May 15, 2009 at 10:25 pm |
We’ve had to deal w/ mean girls too. I always tell my girls to say “I’m everyone’s friend” and then just walk away to play with someone else….I always compliment them on how nice they are to EVERYONE. The being “everyone’s friend” sort of empowers them to not value certain kids over others and it seems to make it a little less hurtful when they get the cold shoulder from kids. And WHY is it that they seem to want to play with the mean kids more?
May 29, 2009 at 10:39 pm |
Tell Ava not 2 worry! Those mean girls ARE NO FUN to play with! And there will be mean girls everywhere but as long as she stays the nice little girl she is then everyone will like her! Well execpt for the mean girls… But you know what I mean. And tell her she shouldnt pay attention to them! If their not going to be nice then dont play with them! I bet their are lots of nice girls at blossom to play with! And Ava IS fun to play with. So its THERE loss!